I need your input, badly. So badly I'm writing this impromptu style and may or may not proofread. (My apologies.) Here's the dilemma: I need to know who was in the wrong, if anyone.
I participate in an online critiquing website and am generally happy with it and love everyone there. I try hard to keep my tit for tat even by returning every crit. I feel bad when I get feedback and never return the favor. I recently got the rare chance to take a few minutes and return a crit. The story was not all that good and I added a few comments that, in retrospect, could have explained my ideas better. I would have given it a poor grade and send the automatic "Thank you for critiquing my story." message and left it at that. The message I got back was something along the lines of "Thanks for taking the time, but you shouldn't have bothered."